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Just walk in my footsteps

April 22, 2012

We are not the first people to do this cross county road trip. And since we are going slow and not trying to get anywhere in a hurry, it should be fun.

I should point out that my husband has actually done it a few times but always as a child (or teenager) in the back seat, never as a driver and planner. What is more, his parents and sister have done it a whole bunch of times. His dad has done over 28 round trips… 56 one ways. So, we can totally do this.

C’s dad (Ed) gave us the list he wrote up a few years back for another family member. I will share it with you.

 Travel checklist

Car (Errors here are inconvenient in the home theater but possibly catastrophic on a cross continent trip.)

  1. Complete auto check (? dealership) and service I-2 weeks prior to leaving
  2. Do not leave without GOOD tires (at least 10,000 miles of tread left), inflated to the right pressure. Balanced and aligned! Check the pressure almost daily on the trip! Under inflated tires in the desert in summer are BAD. Have a good tire gauge.
  3. Make sure your spare is good and inflated
  4. Good brake linings.
  5. Make sure A/C is checked and charged August; 110-122 degrees in the shade in some places for hundreds of miles! A/C failure is a disaster.
  6. New wipers and full washer fluid
  7. Very important! All hoses in good repair and radiator with no leaks and good coolant! Failure of this system will occw in the worst place, under the worst conditions at the worst time. You have long climbs to fairly high elevations in hot weather, 40 to 50 miles from any help
  8. Make sure all your lights work.

Travel

  1. Have drinking water with you.
  2. Essential stuff to have and take in at night with you:
    • A good flashlight with good batteries;
    • A weather radio, with severe weather alert alarm;
    • A backup set of car keys carried separately;
    • Have your CS, Pepper spray or Mace.
    • Pick up a simple doorknob travel security alarm (or other type) for the motels.
  3. Pre-plan your stops and confirm a place to stay. You don’t want to arrive tired and late only to find poor or no accommodations and have to search an unfamiliar area. Some of these places are NOT where you want to wander around at night or day.
  4. Watch the weather station before leaving each day.
  5. Know the weather ahead (and what is coming behind you) for the day and don’t drive into black clouds. It is better to stay put for a day than drive into red-boxed weather! In Calif I NEVER experienced the kind of rain and weather you can encounter in the central and eastern part of the country. It can rapidly become impossible to drive and dangerous to stop! Since most of the big weather systems move roughly South/Southwest toward East/NorthEast if you don’t know what is going on you would end up driving in a system the whole way! Misery! You may see none of this, but. . .
  6. Have an alternate route pre-planned or mapped whenever possible.
  7. Have your maps, triptik and your GPS. Make sure your co-pilot can use them while you drive. It is good diversion too.
  8. Make your fuel stops at big, well-lighted sites (major truck and auto stops) and don’t assume they are safe either.
  9. Avoid “rest stops” in general.
  10. Remember some stretches of road may have 50-75 miles of nothing. In Oklahoma them are two long toll roads about 100 miles each (basically no way around them) and you don’t want to have to exit them. The toll is something like $4.50 ea.
  11. Don’t ever get below 1/4 tank of gas.
  12. Assume you may be caught in construction delays and bad weather that will cost you I-2 hrs on any given day.
  13. Remember driving east you lose l/2 hour of light and 6me every 500 miles. This is really harder than it seems if you are pushing the drive and/or sleeping late, especially if you lose added time to weather or construction.
  14. Stay the Hell away from trucks! This is actually hard to do. Do not sit next to them or get trapped following behind someone who is not passing and just sitting next to them at 70 MPH On the open road it is often totally different than So Cal freeways (which are bad enough). Trucks often travel in clusters of five to ten (virtual convoys), pushing hard (some at75-85 mph) and changing lanes without much caution when they run up onto slow traffic. They may not see you! There will often be only two lanes. Also they will run up your back. Additionally, a recent change we’ve noticed is that trucks traveling at a slower “safe” speed in the right lane are often weaving! (Text messaging? TV? Who knows..).
  15. There are many areas “mined” by troopers with a variety of radar, laser, and airborne support (OK, TX and Missouri esp ). In this economy they are likely to be fund raising. Best to travel somewhat behind the traffic that works for you and not be the point person of the group
  16. Check-in with someone daily at least. We always do. It is a big place to try to track someone’s whereabouts.
  17. Don’t trust anyone. Listen, but don’t give out too much real information in conversations (especially how far you are going or that you are traveling alone). You could always be meeting your husband at dinner, in the morning or in a few miles.
  18. When you stop you WILL be noticed (by whom?).
  19. Park you car at night close to the entrance and in the most secure lighted area possible. This is often difficult. Anything of value visible inside the car may be gone by morning, and a break-in will cost you two days at least. I suspect that in the current economy that risk is greater.
  20. No one goes anywhere alone.
  21. Almost everything noted above is &om direct and at times unfortunate experience! Radiators, tires, A/C, weather, truck encounters, tickets, being lost in bad places, break-ins, etc. We’ve driven across the country 26 round trips, i.e 52 times one way. At least 182,000 miles of cross country driving Even when prepared it can be tough.
  22. You will likely have a GREAT trip if you keep all that stuff in mind There is a lot to see. Think of this like a pilot with a checklist. Forced landings are not good.

 

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Nonononono!!!!!!!!

April 21, 2012

At some point this evening, after I finished packing clothes (deciding to go with the many-small-bags approach), identified the few things that still need to go in the laundry and added things to the List (socks!!), I realized something shocking and horrifying:

OMG! We are going to leave for a month starting Sunday. We are going to DRIVE across the continent. Are you kidding?!?

I avoid driving to Mountain View unless I’ve got a good reason. Going to SF usually requires an immediate monetary reason. And despite the rumors of beautiful beaches, we’ve never been to Mendacino because it is too far.

Shouldn’t someone stop us? Talk some sense into one of us?

This trip has always been in the future. And even though we’ve been getting ready for weeks, it has still been in the future. But if we decided to leave a day early, we’d be leaving tomorrow. To drive across the continent. For a month.

This is just insanity. I’d never agree to this. I’m sure I’ll wake up any minute now. Or transition into taking college exams naked…

 

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As the limit approaches infinity

April 21, 2012

I went to a friend’s ballet performance last weekend. It was lovely, interesting, and innovative. At last year’s performance, she was awesome but this year was even better. And this year, she did some of the choreography which was vibrant and spectacular.

Now, my ballet dance friend is not defined by her significant other (she’s also an engineer, she’s hard to define in lots of ways). So it is a little odd to say how much she’s gained in confidence since she broke up with her old boyfriend and found a man who treats her as though she’s amazing. Which she is.

He’s applied his interest in photography to her ballet, taking pictures of rehearsals and shows. He goes to all of her performances. He’s successful enough in his own right to be proud of her success. It shows in how he treats her.

I’m happy for my friend because I have a husband like that. He’s so supportive of what I want to do that it seems I have no limits in his eyes.

Do you know how annoying that is? Do you have any idea? Maybe not. Not everyone gets to have a partner like this. Which is sad.

The annoying problem is that when someone else believes you can do anything you set your mind to, you have to limit yourself. I hate having to admit I can’t do something. Or even that I just don’t want to put in the effort to figure out if I can or cannot. It might be easier to have someone say, “Well, sure you could write a book but, it’d be a lot of work, do you really think you can make such a commitment?” instead of “Heck, yeah, go for it.”

As far as problems go, I admit this is not one I’d trade for anything else.

My friend is considering leaving her dance company. And she keeps being asked if she is going to start her own. With her old boyfriend, she would have had to say she couldn’t afford it since he didn’t contribute much to their finances. Today, she said she didn’t want to pay for it. She had to admit her own desires, to think about what she wants, and choose the means to get there.

It is hard work to choose the path as well as walk it. Not that I’m really complaining; I’m happy for my friend that she finally has this burden as well.

 

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The Red Queen said

April 21, 2012

Off with his head!

Well, that too. More importantly, in the Red Queen’s race in Lewis Carroll’s Through the Looking Glass, the Red Queen said,

It takes all the running you can do, to keep in the same place.

I feel that way. I don’t mind that the pace of technology goes on, I like to learn new things. And since my specialization is generally a growing field, the stuff I know is valuable and stays that way. It is everything else that makes me worry about the speed of my treadmill.

Everything else in this case is probably Twitter. I have a serious love/hate relationship with Twitter. It is mostly hate though. I feel like I don’t get it. Maybe everyone else gets something better out of the so-called Twitterverse than I do. What I seem to find looking at my Twitter feed is that I’m never, ever doing enough.

I want to go to the RobotGrrl’s robot parties but I never make it. I want to go to the IEEE talks on open source robots or Bluetooth or medical technology but when 7:30pm rolls around I’m happy on the couch with a book and can of champagne. I see people giving talks all the time. Developers promoting their spiffy new app or building an awesome gadget in their free time. Folks traveling to China or France or Africa. I see hackathons and meetups. New books for technologies I’ve never heard of, or worse, books on programming languages or techniques that I want to read but can’t make myself get the oomph.

Everyone has something going on all the time. Twitter is like an endless desert of billboards, each promoting some person doing something fantastic. It makes me think that my billboards are not enough, that I can’t ever keep up.

Part of me knows this is ridiculous. I wrote a book, I have a couple patents, I have a small but reasonably successful company, I am very good at what I do and I get things done. I contribute to a women-in-tech blog and I co-host a lunch every other week for entrepreneurs (specifically women but we’ve never limited it, just failed to invite any men). I occasionally volunteer to talk to classrooms and almost always get invited back. I do conference presentations a couple times a year. I’m a good friend to at least five people. I’m a good wife to one and only one person. My pets are happy, my house is complimented often and my neighbors cheerfully say hello. My cooking isn’t excellent but I bake a mean cookie and awesome pizza. I exercise regularly, occasionally enthusiastically. I’m going on an epic road trip soon.

For the most part, I’m quite happy. But I get the idea that I’m falling behind because everyone is doing something more. I know it is an illusion but that doesn’t stop it from stinging sometimes.  Maybe I should just follow @horse_ebooks and @uberfacts instead of all the amazing people going out there and doing things.

Part of succeeding at a race is knowing where the finish line is… where is the destination? In the Twitter race, there isn’t one. And if there was, it wouldn’t be only one but a multitude of destinations. I know better than to compare myself to strangers but there is something about Twitter that brings out my impostor syndrome.

 

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Packing list

April 21, 2012

Food stuffs

  • Cold ice chest: powered by car and augmented by ice packs.
    • Sliced cheese
    • Some drinks
    • Jam
    • Ice pack
    • Odwalla kids smoothies
  • Insulated cooler for things we don’t want to get super hot (i.e. food bars)
    • Food bars for me (breakfast)
    • Emergency food bars for C
    • Peanut butter packets (actually almond butter packets)
    • Apples? Some sort of fruit
    • Sliced bread
    • Frozen waters
  • Other foods
    • Case of water, some orange-mango juices
    • Crackers
    • Animal cookies
    • Ginger snaps
    • Freeze dried fruit packets
    • Oatmeal (and brown sugar)
    • Cereal- brown rice crispies and honey nut Cheerios
    • Canned tuna
    • Mac and cheese
  • Other
    • Knives, forks, paper plates, napkins (paper towels?)
    • Doggie cleanup bags for trash
    • Travel mug for E

Gadetry

  • Camera + charger, lenses, monopod, backpack
  • Cell phones (2)
  • Lytro camera + USB cable
  • Small camera + charger
  • Fitbit charger (Fitbits are implied)
  • Wifi keyboard
  • Enough computing equipment to fill an Apple store + chargers
  • Kindle + charge cable
  • Aux hard drive
  • Small telescope
  • Binoculars
  • Power inverter and octopus power strip
  • Headphones (3 pair)
  • Drum pad and sticks
  • Small watercolor kit
  • Sketchpad + colored pencils

Clothes (traveling)

  • 10 unders each
  • 2 pair jeans each
  • 1 pair shorts each
  • 2 knee length skirts E
  • 3 short sleeve tshirts
  • 4 long sleeve things (2 sweater/sweatshirt, 2 tshirt)
  • E brown coat
  • E black windbreaker
  • C jacket: rain jacket
  • C jacket: leather
  • C fedora
  • E wide brimmed had
  • Baseball caps (2)
  • Swimsuit for each
  • Knit gloves for E

Being-there clothes

  • 2 button shirts for C
  • Slacks for C
  • Extra pants for each
  • Casual dress for E
  • 2 dressy blouses for E
  • (No tie for C, no little black dress for E)
  • Belt for C

Shoes

  • E Hiking sandals
  • E brown sandals
  • E tennis shoes
  • E tab dress shoes
  • C dress blacks
  • C tennis shoes
  • C hiking boots

Car stuff

  • Fuzzy green shawl
  • Emergency kit- silver blankets, flares, jumper cables, first aid, etc.
  • Hiking first aid kit
  • 2 Pillows
  • AAA membership card, TripTik, region books and assorted maps
  • Tire inflator?
  • Seat belt cutter and window smasher
  • Hand lotion
  • Large maglite
  • Picnic blanket
  • Sunscreen
  • Towel (?)

Drugs

  • Advil
  • Tylenol
  • Zantac
  • Prevacid
  • Allergy meds: Claritin, Benadryl, Benadryl gel
  • Cough drops (sugar free and not)
  • Prescriptions
  • Dramamine?

Bathroom bag

  • Fully stocked plus shaving cream and razors
  • Hair brush
  • Ear plugs

Soaps

  • Laundry detergent
  • Dish washing soap
  • Pump hand sanitizer
  • Sanitizer towelettes